How to be a better ally

Whether you are new to the LGBTQ+ journey, or a long-time supporter, the tips below can help you be a strong ally, in all circumstances.

Learn

  • Ask your LGBTQ+ friends and loved ones about their lives.

  • Keep up to date with LGBTQ+ news and issues.

  • Read, like and support pro-LGBTQ+ websites and social media groups.

Lead

  • Speak up if you hear anti-LGBTQ+ comments or jokes.

  • Use inclusive language in your daily life (see our Inclusive Language DO’s and DON’Ts guide).

  • Add your pronouns to emails or when meeting new people.

  • Post or wear pro-LGBTQ+ symbols.

Love

  • Include your LGBTQ+ friends and their partners at social gatherings.

  • Attend LGBTQ+ celebrations and events.

  • Treat your LGBTQ+ friends and family just like everyone else… because they are just like everyone else!

Support

  • Ask about ways to support them. 

  • Join your local PFLAG or other LGBTQ+ group.

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  • Join Volusia Pride as a sustaining member.

For more information online to learn or to find an organization to support, check out these great resources:

Inclusive Language DO’s and DON’Ts

  • DO use generalized terms for groups of people that don’t include gender like people, folks, friends, team.

  • DON’T use gendered labels like ladies and gentlemen or girls and boys

  • DO say partner or spouse.

  • DON’T automatically say husband or wife.

  • DO use gender-neutral terms for job titles, such as police officer, chairperson, or mail clerk.

  • DON’T use gendered job titles like policeman, chairman, or mailman.

  • DO use non-gendered responses in formal situations. For example, say thank you very much.

  • DON’T use gendered responses like thank you, sir or thank you, ma’am.

  • DO try to use a person’s personal pronouns, avoid using pronouns, or use gender neutral pronouns.

    • I met a new person, Alex, at the meetup.

    • I met them at the meetup. Their name is Alex.

DON’T assume a person’s pronouns based on their appearance, ask what pronouns they use.

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